Victoria Shyreen Beckwith – Parsonsfield, Maine
October 4th, 2024 Surrounded by her family Victoria Conlin Beckwith waged a battle with a rare and aggressive cancer which she succumbed to on October 4th 2024 at her son’s home in Parsonsfield, She took her cancer diagnosis, grim as it was, and fought it head on and passed away on her terms at home as she wished.
She was predeceased by her husband Robert “Bobby Jim” Beckwith, an infant granddaughter Taylor, her parents Lucille Golforth and Norman Conlin, her mother and father in law Lucy and Glenwood Beckwith. Sadly, she was also predeceased by her two brothers-in-law Dale Cobb, Glenwood Beckwith Jr. and Glenn’s wife Theresa and two very special nephews and several cousins.
Vicki or Mom as she was called by everyone was born on October 27th,, 1951 in Rochester, NH. She talked fondly of her years growing up at the Moose Horns in the Monson area. She married and raised her three children in Greenville, Maine making her husband and children the focus of her life. She is survived by her three sons, Sabin Beckwith of Parsonsfield, Ryan Beckwith of Bangor and Cory Beckwith of Florida and their significant others.
Over the years she did several things for work but her first and foremost job was being a mother and Grandmother. We are biased but we do think she was the best out there. Once her own children and the many friends they dragged home for her to care for were grown she helped raise the next generation and was like a mother to her grandchildren. Her oldest grandson Kyle lives in the Bangor area but there was no secret she took pride and joy in her two oldest granddaughters Brooke Beckwith of Parsonsfield and Riley Beckwith of Bangor. They were more like her own daughters than grandchildren and she raised them as such. Her spitfire great granddaughter Kiara amused our Mom to no end, though she would never admit their stubbornness was very alike. Holidays and vacations were the time her great granddaughter Aaria spent with her every year, time she looked forward to almost above allnelse. Aaria and her sister Aaleeyah who knew their Nana thought they were the moon and stars in her world and she loved them dearly.
Her middle son Ryan and partner Tara went on to have additional children, Jackson and Haley. Mom was quick to talk about how Jackson would have been his grandfather’s favorite and the little whirlwind is much like his late grandfather. Haley, still a toddler loved her Nana and Mom looked forward to their visits. Dean and Danika, her other great grandchildren were part of the new generation we often teased mom took our place as favorites, something that never failed to annoy her.
She is also survived by her sister’s Lenci Hurd and her husband Larry and Holly Fiddie and her husband Steve, all of whom she loved deeply. They all shared a bond of loss and sisterly love that couldn’t be broken. Shortly before her passing she talked on and on about the last lunch they were all able to have and how she loves seeing them heal and grow.
Mom had a deep relationship with her aunt, Joyce Wilbur of Milo, someone she looked at as a mother figure for a great deal of her life. She told us she trusted Joyce’s children, her many cousins, to look out after her when she was gone.
Our Mom loved animals, gardening and spending time with her kids and grandchildren. She encouraged us all and would be the first to call us out on our mistakes, but heaven forbid someone else made the mistake of doing so…we were perfect in her eyes and over the years she was a force of nature to be sure we were all safe and happy. Mom could be feisty, sassy and funny, but at the end of the day she was our Mom, Grandmother and Nana that loved us unconditionally.
It would be remiss not to mention her grandson-in-law to be, Nick Saucier of Parsonsfield who spent many Friday nights visiting Nana while she guilted him into any chores she could get him to do. She so looked forward to his wedding to her granddaughter Brooke. Robbie McDougall, her son Cory’s husband was someone she thought of as her own son, and she gladly lectured him like one, but loved him with all her heart. Over the past nine years she lived with Sabin and his husband Chad in Portland and then Parsonsfield. She was an active part of our day to day lives that we still can’t adjust to not having her there. Like her two younger boys she loved her oldest and had a deep relationship with his husband Chad Hamilton. They squabbled as family does but she loved him deeply. Her niece Tiffany Whitney was with her in her last days and visited often before, it made our mom so happy and she was so proud of the women she and her sister Elizabeth had grown up to be.
There are cousins, nieces and nephews, stepchildren and step-grandchildren she loved like the word “step” didn’t exist. Our loss will ripple out to so many people, but if we have one belief is that there is no force on earth nor heaven that could keep her away from caring and watching out for her family. We are comforted to know so many pieces of her will always be with us.
Mom taught us family first and there are no ends you take to love and protect each other. She taught us to forgive and love unconditionally. Her actions taught us to never give up, never back down and don’t be afraid to fight for each other. Her soul taught us what the true meaning of love and kindness was and how it was deserved by every one and it taught us forgiveness for those who slight us.
Our mom was a great woman but one that did not stand on pomp and circumstance. She hated being the center of attention and always directed it towards one of her kids. She like her life simple; family, her pets, her house, her gardens, and just talking or being with one of us. She wished for no services, just a simple cremation and her ashes be laid to rest beside her father in Monson. In light of this we chose to simply gather at home as a family and hold each up in our darkest time until the light breaks through.
We’d like to thank the array of friends and associates for the many cards and donations made in our mom’s name. In her memory, embrace and care for your loved ones. Family is the richest of all treasures.
Arrangements have been entrusted to Poitras, Neal & York Funeral Home, Cornish, www.mainefuneral.com